My Struggle of Enjoying the Moment

November 6, 2017

Last month my husband and I did an in-home taping on lupus for Lifetime Television’s morning show The Balancing Act! I, another lupus warrior and a doctor will be included in the segment. Not many people know this, but I was completely frazzled that day. I was working from home and planned to be ready by 11 a.m., but the time the producer and crew were to arrive was moved up to 10:45. Then …

Your Silence is Deafening

November 4, 2017

There’s a common saying in the chronic illness community: Having a chronic illness will show you who your true friends — for better or for worse. I scroll past memes and statuses about this ALL the time on the ‘Gram and Facebook. But during a late night ‘Gram session I saw a meme and it gave me pause. I felt some kind of way. I don’t know what state of mind I was in, but …

Dear Healthy People…

November 3, 2017

Dear Healthy People: Most of my lupus friends are frustrated with you — like BIGLY frustrated. It’s about how you handle cold and flu season and bouts of sickness in general. Not much makes an auto-immune compromised person more anxious than folks sneezing and coughing out in the open. Getting sick not only comes with the common symptoms you experience, but can take a much greater toll on our bodies. That being said, I’m not writing tonight …

Introducing In the “Lupe”

November 2, 2017

Well, here I go making another crazy commitment. One that I’ve had trouble keeping in the past. I’m jumping back on the blogging saddle! I’ve decided to participate in my writing group See Jane Write’s #bloglikecrazy challenge this month. And ideally I’m supposed to be blogging EVERY DAY this month. Every. Day. My blog hasn’t seen hide nor hair of me since early this year. It’s been that long. My …

My Husband Is Not The One

April 5, 2017

Funny how disappointment makes you hyperaware of your present. The dirty dishes in the sink seem insurmountable, the kitchen floor begs to be mopped. I have this urgency to get my entire life together. I’m talking like sanitize the house, get my finances in order, plan for retirement and meal prep to–night, just to be in control of something since reality slapped me upside my head. Last night we found out that …

I Should Have Had a 5-Year-Old by Now; Hallelujah Anyhow

February 22, 2017

As I watched these glowing women with pregnant bellies float in and out of the doctor’s office today, I could only make out one thought in my head: Lupus has hijacked my life. Of course these women were manicured and painted, perfectly minimalist, beautiful, full of joy and zen with Kate Spade leather bags, glittery diamond rings, and nothing but bellies to show that they were carrying a life. They …

Coming Out of the Illness Closet at Work: Choice or Duty?

November 28, 2015

I’m so excited to share a guest post I wrote for Jessica Gimeno, founder of Fashionably Ill, about the struggles of sharing about my illness in the workplace. Please feel free to share your own experiences below.

I’m OK with Quitting and You Should Be Too

November 11, 2015

On October 30 I made a declaration in front of the world, which means I posted it on Facebook that I was jumping back in the blogging game. I was tired of carrying the shame of not posting since April 2014. Yes, April 2014. With a mix of excitement and a little trepidation, I signed up for BlogHer’s #NABLOPOMO (National Blog Post Month) Challenge that encouraged writers to blog every day for a …

Love & Lupus: The Road Less Traveled

April 3, 2014

I’ve been anticipating when a blog I wrote for a fellow FAMU alumna and friend would publish and it’s finally here! Crystal-Marie Mitchell, founder of The Diva Inc. Blogazine, asked me to write about how lupus has affected my marriage. This was my answer: Love & Lupus: The Road Less Traveled in Love

Connecting the Dots

March 11, 2014

I’m sitting at a local Barnes & Noble cafe’ trying to gather my thoughts for this blog post, but I’m not sure how anyone could concentrate with this horrible opera music blaring. And I’m pretty sure my reporter’s ear picked up a conversation of a young man being interviewed to be a stripper — or maybe he was a former stripper turned model. And then my mind wondered to why someone …